I’m inviting you to think of your New Year’s Eve party more like a closing Night Celebration for The Epic Production Of 2018. In theatrical terms, the end of a show is a time of celebration. There’s usually copious bubbly and a whole lot of reminiscing. We’ll noodle on what went fabulously right, what went horribly off-script, and what we learned about ourselves in the process. I’m inviting you to sink into the ending energy, and for a few days, allow yourself to be in-between. In between who you were last year, and who you intend to become next. - Jacqueline Gates
The Ending & The In-Between
It's common to rush through the process of looking back at the year that is ending, coming to peace about it and embracing the year to come with hope. I have done it in the past in one day, on December 31st.
But I think it's better to take more time with it. So it sticks. :)
And I think that today, after the excitement of having a whole new year has had a chance to percolate a bit, it might be easier to begin to think through the past year, because we're already feeling the energy of "brand new year has started."
If we're going to do the good, the bad and the ugly about 2018, let's start with the worst of it so we get to end on a positive note. :)
Taking a Look at What Went Wrong
Take a moment to mentally travel through each month of the year, and take note of anything that went wrong.
You could do it in writing, too.
When I did that, and saw "January" written down, with blank space, I remembered a traumatic moment with my mom. She had cancer, and was suddenly taken to the hospital and we didn't know what was happening at first. The first several days of January went by before we understood that they had resolved the problem and she wasn't about to die right then.
Your last-year memories might be less traumatic but still troubling in the moments when they happened.
Deciding to think through them, month by month, may mean remembering things you got through but didn't fully leave behind.
If we develop sharp enough attention, we can see specifically what feelings and experiences we tend to cling to, or push away. Then we can consciously, gently refrain from pushing or pulling, and let the experience go. We can become free of the stress around a given experience, even while that experience is still happening. -David Cain, from Raptitude.com
Letting Go & Healing
When I remembered how upsetting those first several days of January was, I understood how they set the tone for the entire year. And I know that that is a moment I need to let go of and heal, so it won't be buried alive, still causing me trouble in the year to come.
Do you have moments like that, too? Release them and this year could be so much better than it might be otherwise.
Take a moment to give yourself a score, using a scale of 1 to 10. How ready do you feel to go forward into 2019? Granted, the year will march on whether we are able to embrace it or not. But being able to embrace it, too, might make all the difference.
Feel free to share your score in the comments, or tell me about something you are leaving behind in the wreckage of 2018. Oh, and if it's not a 10 (mine is at 7, I believe), tomorrow's blog post may help.
See you tomorrow!